My son said, ‘I can’t breathe.’

Essay by Jacalyn Wetzel, creator of “Stop Yelling, Please!” Hey friend, Do you remember me? It’s been a while, I know. I sat behind you in civics in junior high. Do you remember me? You were my base on the cheer squad, and once you caught my head just before it hit the ground after […]

When the gratitude journal ain’t happenin’.

Parents who are healthy and have healthy kids know that we should be grateful, but it’s hard to muster up a whole lot of real gratitude these days. Many of us are just too exhausted. Burnt out. Some of us have that wild-eyed look that you typically only see on a sleep-walking three-year-old in a fever dream. Our […]

When we’re in charge, but not in control

Pandemic or not, we do whatever it takes. We go to work (those of us whose jobs must go on). We figure out unemployment insurance (those of us whose jobs have paused). We sing “Wheels on the Bus” (again), clean sweet potatoes from the computer screen (again), and dissect Thinking Putty from the puppy’s eyelashes […]

Best places to cry.

Chopping Onions Again? Parents cry. A lot. It’s not that we’re overly dramatic, it’s just that little people come with lots of…drama. All-nighters. Emergency rooms. Biting. Unexpected expenses. Alarming rashes. Weird smells emanating from unidentifiable sources. Then, after a long day of ordinary dramas, we settle onto the couch with our snuggle-bug for a bedtime […]

Should we abandon our New Year’s Resolutions yet?

THIS YEAR WE WILL…. Eat fewer chocolate-covered espresso beans and more actual beans. Stick with a sleep strategy for our exasperatingly adorable night owls. Reconnect with an estranged family member. Set compassionate boundaries with someone who needs it. But January’s almost over and wellll…maybe next year?? Most of us go into the year with great […]

Parenting decision-fatigue. It’s a thing.

Cheerios or lunchbox scraps for breakfast? Should I first look for the hairbrush under the bed or behind the trashcan? Do I have time for a real shower or just a quick scrub under the armpits? Parents make hundreds of decisions every day, often before we even leave the house. And that’s not even counting […]

Want to be a great parent? Master the art of making mistakes.

We know that everyone makes mistakes, but for some reason many of us feel our shame uniquely, as though we are the first and only person to have our portable stroller collapse while jay-walking across a four-lane. And worse, we worry that our mistakes will have life-long impacts on our child. Because we missed the […]

Are you stuck in a loop? (And would you know if you were?)

“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing, over and over again, and expecting different results.” That’s often misattributed to Einstein (along with many other proverbs), but the wisdom holds. At some point, we all find ourselves living a sequence of habits that consistently cause more harm than good. Let’s say that last night […]

What was I thinking?!? Strong Moms News, June 2019

There’s a reason why many of us struggle to eat right or exercise or stay sober or simply floss our teeth, and it’s not lack of information. In fact, many behavior specialists use a “two brain” metaphor to describe the driving forces behind how and why we do the things we do. One of the […]